If you want to make a change in your life to be more successful, in any specific area, you have to believe it can happen. Without belief in yourself, it�s unlikely you will ever fully commit to making a change.
Jack says it�s best, �Don�t ever let someone else tell you what you are not capable of. With training, determination and hard work you eventually you anything you set your mind to. Remember your beliefs are a choice.�
Whether you want to create a business, run a marathon, completely or switch careers to follow your passion believe you can do it.
Negative thinking working 100% of the time � think positive and believe you can succeed.
I�m sure you�ve heard how important it is to set goals � you�ve probably heard it so many times you think it might even be BS or cliche.
I know I once thought this until I read a goal setting study about 267 individuals from the age of 23-72. They were broken up into four groups:
� Think about goals
� Write down goals (and think about them)
� Share goals with a friend (as well as thinking and writing them down)
� Weekly progress report to a friend (as well as thinking, writing, and sharing).
� The result?
Group four averaged 76% completion while group one was 43%, two was 56%, and three was 64% achievement.
If you want to be successful and make changes it�s so important to write goals, share them with friends, and look at them every day.
I recommend the book just from this chapter alone as it breaks down, in detail, even more examples and way to consistently achieve your goals.
As Jack says, �One of the great strategies for success is to act as if you already are where you want to be.�
This means thinking like, talking like, dressing like, acting like and feeling like the person who has already achieved your goal.�
I get it � sounds kind of corny and silly. But the more I�ve researched successful people the more common this principle is found. Success Principles - Jack Canfield
If you want a promotion at work act like you already are that position by showing up, kicking ass, and showing others you are ready for it.
If you want to be a Youtube star or entrepreneur constantly visualize yourself doing amazing things or telling others, in vivid detail, what your life like.
The more you focus on something the more likely you are to manifest it into your life.
How often do you want to try or learn something new but start to feel fear?
It could be fear of failure, fear of rejection or fear of looking stupid. Most people stop at fear and let fear control your dreams.
Don�t let fear guide your life. Choose to go forward when you see fear and take massive action.
I was terrified when I thought about leaving my cushy, six-figure job to pursue my passions.
Guess what? Last week was five months later and I�m still here, more motivated and hungry than ever and laugh at the fear
If you want to achieve greatness you will have to move forward when you are scared. As Les Brown says, �Fear is nothing more than false evidence appearing real.�
If you are scared of anything, face your fear and go after it:
� Fear of heights? Go skydiving
� Fear of public speaking? Sign up for Toastmasters (I just went it for the first time � super helpful and positive btw)
� Fear of water? Take a swim class
� You don�t want to end up later in life regretting not doing something because of fear of failure or looking stupid.
Face your fears head on and once you do you�ll be amazed how much your confidence grows.
Maybe my all-time favorite Tony Robbins quote, �Success leaves clues.�
What�s it mean?
Almost everything you want to do has probably been done by someone already. Whether you want to lose 50 pounds, become financially independent, start a blog, or travel the world full-time.
Instead of finding out how to succeed on your own, seek out people who have already done what you want to do. Find a teacher, coach, Youtube video or book to help you get closer to your goals.
I fully believe that following your passion(s) is one of the easiest ways to live an extraordinary life.
As Jack says, �Passion is something within you that provides the continual enthusiasm, focus, and energy you need to succeed.�
I�m sure you�ve met people who are super passionate about their career or life�do they tend to be negative and pessimistic or filled with energy, positivity, and optimism?
Clearly, they are so passionate about what they do they are radiating energy.
I wrote about how Tom Bilyeu talks about the importance of passion in your life.
It may not always be easy to know what you like to do. Instead, try everything to find out what you are passionate about so you can enjoy life to the fullest.
Related: Six Ways to Find Your Passion.
Instead of making New Year�s Resolutions this year try to develop four new successful habits. Habits control our lives and actions roughly 90% of the time.
Focus on creating good habits to help you become successful and reach your goals.
Here are some good ideas from the Success Principles;
� Stop paying bills at the last minute
� Forgetting people�s names within seconds of meeting them (I�m super guilty of this � 2018 habit!)
� Sleeping in too late and rushing to work
� Pushing off exercise until after work�.and never going
� Not setting goals
� Forgetting to take lunch to work
By setting a goal of four new habits each year it allows you to introduce one each quarter. For more habits check out my book with over 20 of the top success habits here.
I�m sure you�ve noticed in life that you get what you focus on. If you�re focusing all of what you don�t have it tends to happen more. But if you focus on things you want, they will begin to enter your life.
DECIDE TO BE WEALTHY
As Jack said, �If you want wealth, you must decide now from the deepest place in your heart to have wealth in your life � without yet worrying about how or if it�s possible.�
If you want to earn $1 million or $100 million there is no right answer.
� What is your ideal net worth?
� How much are you earning?
� How much do you save and invest?
� What kind of house do you live in? What type of car do you drive?
� When will you retire?
� Use the previous principle, act as if, to visualize your ideal financial life and set goals to get started.
Jack (and myself) also recommend learning more about money to help better your financial situation. Check out these five books that helped change my finances here.
Five Books That Changed My Life
As the great, billionaire investor Warren Buffet said, �Do not save what is left after spending, but spend what is left after saving.�
Always pay yourself first with automatic deductions to your 401K, Roth IRA, or saving accounts.
The more (and earlier) you save the more you will be able to take advantage of compound interest. Learn more about compound interest here.
This last principle is pretty simple�as you make money you should always continue to give back and help others in need.
Whether you volunteer your time or money find an organization you believe in and help others. This is a common theme from others I�ve written about including Tony Robbins and Arnold Schwarzenegger.
BUY THE SUCCESS PRINCIPLES
These ten principles are a mere preview of what the book entails. It is, by far, the most comprehensive book I�ve read to help you be successful in life.
Success is different for everyone, don�t feel like you need to start a business, earn $10 million or save the world to be successful. As long as you�re living and creating the life you want that is perfect.
As long as you�re living and creating the life you want that is perfect.
Why do some people get all the luck while others never get the breaks they deserve?
A psychologist says he has discovered the answer.
Ten years ago, I set out to examine luck. I wanted to know why some people are always in the right place at the right time, while others consistently experience ill fortune. I placed advertisements in national newspapers asking for people who felt consistently lucky or unlucky to contact me.
Hundreds of extraordinary men and women volunteered for my research and over the years, I have interviewed them, monitored their lives, and had them take part in experiments.
I carried out a simple experiment to discover whether this was due to differences in their ability to spot such opportunities. I gave both lucky and unlucky people a newspaper, and asked them to look through it and tell me how many photographs were inside. I had secretly placed a large message halfway through the newspaper saying: "Tell the experimenter you have seen this and win $50." This message took up half of the page and was written in type that was more than two inches high. It was staring everyone straight in the face, but the unlucky people tended to miss it and the lucky people tended to spot it.
Unlucky people are generally more tense than lucky people, and this anxiety disrupts their ability to notice the unexpected.
As a result, they miss opportunities because they are too focused on looking for something else. They go to parties intent on finding their perfect partner and miss opportunities to make good friends.
They look through newspapers determined to find certain types of job advertisements and miss other types of jobs.
Lucky people are more relaxed and open, and therefore see what is there rather than just what they are looking for. My research eventually revealed that lucky people generate good fortune via four principles. They are skilled at creating and noticing chance opportunities, make lucky decisions by listening to their intuition, create self-fulfilling prophesies via positive expectations, and adopt a resilient attitude that transforms bad luck into good.
Here are Professor Wiseman's four top tips for becoming lucky:
1) Listen to your gut instincts - they are normally right
2) Be open to new experiences and breaking your normal routine
3) Spend a few moments each day remembering things that went well
4) Visualize yourself being lucky before an important meeting or a telephone call.
Have a Lucky day and work for it...
Where ever you go, who so ever you talk, you will find people talking about their failure, there are many who have achieved success in their life maybe not in the same direction they were looking for but definitely, their achievement are phenomenal, still they regret on what they could not achieve in their lives.
Their failure actually died the day they thought of doing something different after making several attempts to which they could not achieve great heights.
One of my cousins wanted to become a doctor but could not get admission in medical college after securing good marks in the pre-medical examination, due to the big donation.
If he had been a doctor, he would have been a part of masses but now he is a solicitor so he is placed above the masses.
This is how we ignore our achievements and regret on something which was less valued.
Do we really actualize what is the true meaning and true essence of word "failure"?
Maybe, we do not, our list of failure start from the stupid assumptions what we have for us or we are influenced, a couple of times we blindly follow the opinion, comments & suggestions thrown at us by people, even after knowing that we are a different individual born with different skills.
Here I am talking about someone who is common but different, they are with us but not like us, they do perform everything the way we do but their results are far better than us, they are known to us as an individual being a part of a group, I don�t know who they are but I am sure, we are one of them.
Whenever I sit alone and think, I realize that the people whom I remember in the deepest of my thought are the one who came in my life for the very short span of time and played a very important role. They guided me, motivate us, and invest their valuable time for our betterment with no personal reasons.
Dear reader, take a deep thought and understand have we been able to make a presence in some one's thoughts. ........
The moment you change the purpose of helping others and do guide and support with no reason, you will start adding your name to the list of one.
Life has no strict rules and regulation, try and go with the ease of life, when you do something for others without any expectation, they will remember you and you also won�t be having any hard feeling for them, when they are not available to help you when you are in need.
Try and make your life simpler that will happen when you try to be the best friend of yourself, know yourself, and appreciate yourself, Interpersonal skills are important but Intrapersonal skills more valuable, when you don�t love yourself, you can�t love others, when you are not honest with yourself you can�t be honest to others, be yourself first in order to be the one.
�Be the one, who care about everyone� in this materialistic world it is so difficult to be like a human, one who maintain the human values with them are rare and difficult to find.
By Tom Butler-Bowdon 04 Feb, 2011
Book review: The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey
In a nutshell: Real effectiveness comes from clarity about your principles, values, and vision. Change is only real if it has become habitual.
Stephen Covey�s book is one of the phenomena of modern personal development writing. It has sold a million copies a year since its release in 1989, has been translated into 32 languages, and forms the intellectual basis of a large corporation.
Covey drew a distinction between what he termed the �personality ethic� (the quick-fix solutions and human relations techniques that had pervaded much of 20th century self-help writing) and the �character ethic�, which revolved around unchanging personal principles.
Covey believed outward success was not success at all if it was not the manifestation of inner mastery. In his terminology, �private victory� must precede �public victory.� It is a business plan for personal life.
The book is a compelling read, both as a self-help book and as a leadership/management manual. This cross-over status effectively doubled its market. The book has become regarded as a classic of business thinking.
Habits: the building blocks of change
Covey regarded real greatness as the result of the slow development of character; our daily habits of thinking and acting. The 7 Habits promises a life revolution as the result of thousands of small changes.
By the late 1980s, Western culture had had decades of management theory about efficiency. Covey took a different perspective: think about what is most important to you and see if it is the centre around which your life revolves. There is no use being �efficient� if what you are doing lacks meaning or an essential good.
Covey�s book struck a nerve because it showed many people what genuine responsibility was about. To blame �the economy� or �my terrible employer� or �my family� for our troubles was useless. To have fulfilment and personal power, we have to decide what we will take responsibility for, what is in our �circle of concern�. Only by working on ourselves could we hope to expand our �circle of influence�.
The seven habits in brief
1. Be proactive.
We have the freedom to choose our reactions to stimuli. We do not have to live by the scripts that family or society have given us. We accept full responsibility for our life the way conscience tells us that it was meant to be lived.
2. Begin with the end in mind.
What do I want people to say about me at my funeral? By writing our own eulogy or creating a personal mission statement, we create the ultimate objective or person first, and work backward from there.
3. Put first things first.
Having the end in our mind, we can plan our days for maximum effectiveness and enjoyment. Our time is spent with the people and things that matter.
4. Think win/win.
One person�s success does not need to be achieved at the expense of the success of others. In seeking win/win outcomes, we never endanger our own principles.
5. Seek to understand, then to be understood.
Without empathy, there is no influence. Without deposits in the emotional bank account of relationships, there is no trust. Genuine listening gives precious psychological air to the other person, and opens a window on to their soul.
Synergy results from the exercise of all the other habits. It brings forth �third alternatives� or perfect outcomes that cannot be predicted from adding up the sum of the parts.
7. �Sharpen the saw�.
We need to balance the physical, spiritual, mental and social dimensions of life. �Sharpening the saw� to increase productivity involves taking the time to renew ourselves in these areas regularly.
It has been said that Covey�s seven habits are merely common sense. On their own they may be, but put together in that sequence and with the philosophy of principle-centredness to support them, they can produce the synergy that Covey celebrates. The 7 Habits gives readers the means for changing the little to transform the big.